This weeks blog post has come about because of a purchase I have recently made from the lovely Marnie from Eskimo Nell. A glorious NZ small business who makes funky tshirts and clothes for “bad ass babes and kick ass kids”
(Also check her out on instagram @eskimo_nell if you want a dose of real life in between your scrolling of perfect mum bloggers and travelling people and all the other “perfect” people you follow, she’s amazing and is always 100% honest with her audience about what is going on with her life)
The shirt I brought from her says YOU DO YOU in big letters across the back and also has a small picture of a girl blowing a kiss with the same phrase on the front.
I wore this top while exploring Taupo and realised that it made me feel really empowered and confident and thought having a chat to you guys about why the phrase “you do you” had such an impact on me.
All our lives we are told to conform to societies ideals of what we should be doing, even more so when we hit our teenage and early twenty years.
There is pressure to be going to uni, know exactly what you want to do with your life, make lifelong friends, work hard, have fun and party but also be responsible and start settling down, it’s enough to make anyone’s head spin.
I know when I finished school and was heading out into the big bad world, school was trying to sway me this way and that to go to uni and do a degree because that is what was gonna get me a job and I wasn’t going to go very far without one and there was a lot of pressure to spend a whooooole heap of money and do a degree on something that you are interested in, but also something that is going to have a job attached to it at the end, and is also going to make you money.
I thought and thought and looked at all my options and couldn’t find a particular university course that I was 100% interested in, or that I wanted to spend that much money on having a student loan for. So I decided that I was just going to work fulltime at the bookshop I was currently working at and give myself much longer to think about what I actually wanted to do with my life and also save some money along the way, much to the disappointment of my school teachers and random people that asked me what I was doing with my life at work.
This was the best desicion I have ever made.
There I said it.
It showed me responsiblity, it showed me that I can do whatever the heck I like as long as I am being a good person — contributing to society and not just sitting at my parents house doing nothing all day, it gave me the freedom to focus on other things, like getting my license, gaining confidence in my abilities and also the opportunity to try out different ideas of what I want to do with my life and see if they fit. I saved money and learnt how to find a good balance between buying everything you want and saving money (the saved money then contributed to my trip to Europe so saving was well well worth it.)
Ultimately it taught me to just DO YOU.
At the end of the day, you are in control of your own life.
Do what makes YOU happy,
Do what sets YOUR soul on fire,
Do whatever it takes to get YOU to a place where you are happy and healthy and living your best damn life.
It doesn’t matter whether thats university, or fitness, or blogging or starting your own business, whatever it is, make sure you are making yourself happy first and foremost.
Not going to uni was the best thing I ever did in the grand scheme of things, I took the time to really find what brings me the most joy (which ended up being Beauty Therapy) and pursued that, and now I am making enormous strides towards being the best Beauty Therapist I can be, and working on my mindset, and confidence and everything in between.
What seemed like such a small decision to not go to Uni, turned out to be the best thing I ever did and I will forever appreciate the people that stood beside me in my decision to not go.
Now do not get me twisted, if there is a course at Uni that makes your soul shine and you know in your heart of hearts that that is what you want to do, then go for it. Do the damn course, I’m not trying to make people not go to Uni, I just want young adults to know that there are other choices, but make your own choice at the end of the day. I want you to pursue that career because you want to, not because it’s what your parents, or teachers or anyone else wants.
It’s so important to get to know yourself, inside and out, as a young adult becoming an adult, navigating your early twenties and figuring out what you want. Don’t make that harder than it needs to be by doing something that you dread going to everyday, it’s not worth it.
Just do you boo.
Thanks for reading,
I would love to know what you think about me writing more “opinion pieces” in the future and what you think of this one.
Lots of love,