So I was recently reading Chloe Plumstead’s blog post about life ruts on www.thelittleplum.co.uk and it really resonated with me so I thought I would talk about it as I feel I have been in a wee bit of a life rut myself.
“A life rut can be easily recognised by its common characteristics: a general lethargy towards everyone and everything; an enduring period of stasis – of doing the same thing, keeping the boat afloat and not taking risk; and an unnerving, unmovable uncertainty about where the fuck your life is going and why everybody else seems to have found their ‘thing’.”
After reading this little excerpt from Chloe’s blog it was then I realised that I am indeed feeling like this myself.
At the start of September I got back from the most incredible trip around Europe (26 days visiting 12 countries really gets a gals travelling feet wet) and I was on an absolute high when I got home about what I had seen and done, and how much of the world there is left to travel to, but as I got back into the swing of things at work, and at home things went back to normal and I went back to plodding my way through everyday, the classic routine of eating, sleeping and working.
Although I am achieving more than I have ever achieved at work before, and my mindset towards my abilities has sky-rocketed I still feel as though something is missing.
Of course I absolutely love my job, and feel as though the beauty industry and making sure girls and woman (and even men) know their worth and can feel beautiful in their own skin just by doing something as simple as an eyelash tint or an eyebrow shape is something absolutely worth doing, but I feel as though I have put what makes my soul shine and my heart burst with love on the back burner, which is where I feel like the life rut comes in.
Being a beauty therapist is not the easy glamorous job it looks to be on the outside.
It’s long hours, sometimes physically and always mentally hard work and can change in an instant day-to-day. We definitely don’t get treatments in our down time (that is reserved for cleaning, doing the laundry and setting up rooms) and we definitely don’t juts sit on our asses all day and wait for people to walk through the door, its back to back treatments everyday sometimes 6 days a week. So as you can imagine, I’m pretty exhausted walking through the door at 9pm after a late night shift that I pretty much eat my dinner, hang out with my boyfriend, scroll through social media and go to bed.
As you can imagine this doesn’t leave a lot of time day-to-day to get things I love to do, done.
Things such as reading, working out, going on adventures, writing, blogging and photography are all things that make my heart sing and my soul shine but I feel as though I have absolutely no time for, plus who wants to see my everyday work life on their instagram stories everyday?
I am trying to figure out ways to be able to find the time (and the energy) to do the things I love while also being able to give enough energy and passion at work. At the moment I’m putting about 99% of my passion and energy to work and 1% doing Hayley things that give me personal joy (if anyone has any tips on how to have more than 24 hours in the day , it would be greatly appreciated…)
I know, I know, this blog post doesn’t seem to have much of a point but I think it’s an important subject to discuss as life isn’t always doing the things that you want to do 100% of the time, but finding small moments of magic in everyday life to do things that make your heart well up with so much love it feels like its gonna burst. Here are some things I’ve -attempted- to do to make life a little bit less mundane..
- I’ve started to write a gratitude journal in the morning and in the evenings and spend 5 minutes or so thinking about things that have given me joy throughout the day and what I can do to make the next day even better, which has really helped me see the positive in everyday.
- I’ve also just signed up again for the gym, because I miss feeling fit and strong and healthy and personally love exercise to begin with, finding the time to do this at least 3 times a week like I want to is going to be a challenge but it’s something that is worth the challenge.
- I also really want to try to show up more on instagram and with my blog, I want to be more personal, more relatable and actually blog about things that I have an opinion on or things I’m passionate about, as I admire bloggers who show up everyday for their audience, and can find the courage to put their writing out into the world.
As I attempt to wrap this blog post up about feeling like life isn’t much more than working eating and sleeping and how hard it is to find time for the things that I love to do, I was reading a book called “The Art of Deliberate Success” by David Keane, where he talks about managing our time through what is actually important to us, and whether the things we are doing will get us to our definition of success and this quote really stood out to me in relation to this blog post
“As we seek to live more deliberate lives, success is not so much a matter of ‘doing’ but of ‘becoming’ and having the confidence to ask searching questions of ourselves. What do I value? What’s enough? What am I passionate about? What makes me feel alive? What is life asking of me? Raising and addressing these kinds of questions is the critical inner work that is the gateway to finding your true authentic self”
So I will leave you with those questions as the end of this blog post, I will be having a good think about whether the way I am spending my time (and the extra time that I do have, even if I don’t think I do) is aligning with my version of success and who I want to be.
Hope you have related in some way to this blog post, it’s something that happens to everyone at one point in their life, and even multiple times throughout a year. So I hope that you (and I) can come back to this blog post as a reminder of the things that are important to us, and whether we are spending enough of the 168 hours of the week doing things that are rising ourselves and others up, taking up challenges to give us a better tomorrow, and evaluating ourselves at every opportunity to learn lessons from the way we react to things.
Lots of love,